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Preparing for your Engagement shoot – 3 easy steps in getting the most out of your photo session!

29 Apr

It’s Engagement season!

Today I wanted to share some info for all of our lovely couples that are now starting into their Engagement sessions for up and coming weddings this year…and next.

I have been super busy with Engagement sessions lately, so today I wanted to take a few minutes out to share, what I feel, is some good solid knowledge on just what you need to do in getting prepared for your up and coming E-sessions.

Here we go…

#1.  Look your best – Ladies! Get your Makeup and Hair done Professionally

This is first on our list, and not just because we do Makeup and Hair either…

Getting your Makeup and Hair done professionally can substantially increase that polished and final look of your images.

When paying for professional images, something that you will look back on and treasure years later;  You want to make sure you are camera ready.  What might look great for basic “day wear” might not translate the same in professional images and different lighting situations.

Keep in mind, engagement sessions are often fairly casual, so it’s not about over-doing it. A nice polished and cleaned up version of yourself, not only goes a long way for the photos, but also ups confidence levels and just a good overall “I look and feel good” vibe. Which in turn helps many client’s relax a bit more in front of the camera when they look and feel great.

Note:

In SOME cases, combining your E-shoot with your bridal trial session can be a great idea….but ONLY If you are aiming for a more low-key look…

Often we see client’s that try to stretch that buck spent and combine them…truthfully though, this can in many cases, cause more harm than good. Which is why many client’s now a days are opting to do their engagement Makeup and Hair services as a completely separate booking.

Remember that E-sessions are generally about you as a couple, candid, loving, a “behind the scenes” if you will.

For those opting for more formal Wedding day styling, up do’s, more structured styling, this can and does, in many cases,  look very “off” in an engagement session. Especially if you are out in a casual setting, often jeans and a nice Blouse or T-shirt, then rocking a Full ‘wedding day look’ on the upper portion with a styled up-do, big false lashes and so forth. Yes it’s nice, but completely deflects from the casual couple feeling and can look like you are trying way too hard.

So use your judgment. Popular looks being done for casual engagement sessions are often soft all over curls or light half-up styling – this helps add movement with a bit of polish without looking to over done. While Makeup is often clean, polished for on-camera, usually sticking with more earthy color palettes as a popular choice amongst many clients. Light lash filler like individuals, or accent lashes, is also a great way to add some focus to your eyes, without looking like you’ve strapped on a pair of night-club false lashes, then went to hang out in a pretty field for some pictures with your fiancé.

Don’t forget to clean up your nails and moisturize those hands too – It’s time for some pictures of the rings!

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Photo courtesy of Amber Hughes Photography.

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A little more Glam – Photo courtesy of Stone Photo.

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All about the eyes – Photo courtesy of Alexandra Hunt

#2 – Picking a solid outfit

As mentioned above. Unless you are doing a full-out “theme” shoot. Your outfit choice helps tell the story and compliment the location choices too.

Some client’s opt for simple jeans and T-shirt styles, while others might go a bit more glam with a cute dress and suit styling for their fiance…. Whatever makes you comfortable and shows your personal vibe and style.

Look at your location choices as well, to help you better determine your clothing options. When picking your outfits, don’t forget about your seasons; colder temperatures vs. warmer!

Remember – Clothing can often photograph a bit larger or baggier too, so look at items that are a bit closer to your body for a more flattering look. Avoid items with large logo’s on them as well – You are not doing an ad-campaign!

Whatever you chose remember the following:

Clean – No old or “pilling” sweaters, etc. Yes they might be your favorite items, but over worn clothing photographs exactly like that = Over worn and old looking!

For the Guys, this means looking at new shirts. Something clean, modern, that isn’t that same shirt in the back of the closet that only comes out at the holidays.

Colors – Solid colors can make a wonderful impact in images, giving a fun, vibrant and youthful playfulness. Avoid drab colors that will wash you out, causing you to look sick or pale.

Also try to avoid anything to “matchy-matchy” with your partner….There is a fine line on looking cute and looking like you are twins.

Accessorize – Ladies , your accessories can add polish to your look, but don’t overdo it. Light Layering on items can also make your look a bit more put together.

No wrinkles!!! – Break out that iron. Make sure your items are all clean, and ironed. Nothing looks more distracting than a giant wrinkle straight across the front of a dress shirt or cute dress.

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Doing it right!
Photo courtesy of Amber Hughes Photography.

#3 – Location!

And lastly, choosing your location. Something that reflects you as a couple.

We see everything from full themes – Cosplay, zombies, cherry blossoms, you name it, we’ve probably seen it – So whether you are going for casual or formal, or even themed. Take the time to scope out some location choices beforehand. Speak with your photographer and let them know what you like. We are blessed in our area with a wide range of options whether you like the concrete jungle of the downtown core areas and fancy artisan buildings, to the forested areas and horse farms of the valley, straight through to the quaint older brick neighborhoods, the beaches and ocean, all the way through to snow-covered mountains. Your possibilities are endless here.

This doubles over as well as to how and where you might use these images – Will you be using them on save the dates/invites? or displayed at the wedding? If planning this, Your Engagement shoot can then follow similar ideals in order to tie it all in.

This will also further help you in determining or bringing with you any pre-made “props” for your engagement session!

Bonus:

Look at taking the day off of work and doing your session during the week/day!

Not only will your vendors often have far more flexibility with dates, but this can help you further for a number of reasons.

Traffic – people are at work. Leaving many locations far more accessible with easier parking options too. Especially any downtown or main areas.

Fewer people – Especially in cases of those doing main locations – weekdays often give you far more options for images, with far fewer people in the way or walking around. Areas can often be a bit more personal and romantic feeling because of this. For those that are a bit nervous shooting in public with people staring at you, this to can help ease that a bit. Shooting on a Saturday or Sunday, mid afternoon, no way.

Locations – Hotels and Venues  – Yes, you can look at scoring some amazing pictures at local venues, but call in advance. Some may cost you, some can be free. Same as with many commercial photo shoots we all do for magazines etc. during the week, these areas are often quiet as can be, and may let you in to shoot a few pictures. This can be a gorgeous option for those looking at something a little bit more than the standard street or field shots for their sessions.

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When it’s all said and done – why not make a night out of it? You’re dressed up, Makeup and Hair done, and both looking fabulous….look at heading out for a nice romantic dinner.

We hope that helps you a bit more in preparing for your Engagement sessions with your photographers and remember don’t Stress – this is a fun time, enjoy yourself 🙂

For more information on our Engagement services please visit me at: www.brides-by-felicia.com

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Marie Antoinette Inspired Bridal Editorial!

15 Apr

To start this week off, I wanted to post a little bridal inspiration now that season is well underway – I am so happy to FINALLY be able to show off this lovely shoot from last year! Featured in the Winter issue of Heirloom magazine as well.

I wanted to keep this post small, as there are so many photos I couldn’t post them all, but I definitely recommend taking a few minutes to hit up the video posted below to watch everyone’s full collaboration on this editorial Bridal shoot; as this shoot consisted of an all-star team of some of the most amazing and highly sought after wedding vendors in the city!

Enjoy 🙂

Vancouver Wedding Vancouver Wedding Vancouver Wedding Makeup Vancouver Wedding Makeup Artist Felicia Bromba Vancouver Wedding Makeup Artist Wedding Vancouver Water Fall Building Vancouver Wedding Flowers Vancouver Wedding Bridal Gown

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Team:

Venue:  the waterfall building

Gown/ Tux: Allison @ Manuel Mendoza 

Florist: Evan @ Flowerz

Makeup: Felicia @ Brides by Felicia

Hair: Victoria @ Vancouver Mobile Hairstylist 

Jewelry: Elsa+ Madalena @ Elsa Corsi/ Jeweliette 

Custom Furniture: Michelle @ Hartt Designs 

Decor/ Props/ Styling: Dawna @ Aroka Vintage

Stationary:  Laura @ Laura Lavender

Sweets: Kien @ Kien and Sweets 

Shoes/Bags: Marissa @ Lords Shoes

Musicians: Laria, Karina, Jacek, Aleksandra @ Musical Occasions

Female Model: Caroline Henry

Male Model: Sydney Estrada

Chair Covers : Chair Decor Etc. 

Photography: Jeanie @ Studio Jeanie

Planning/ Stylizing: Kailey Michelle @ Kailey Michelle Events

Videography: Fill in the Blank Studios 

The Wedding day: How long should I plan for Make-up and/or Hair Services?

14 Feb

Your wedding is a big event already, you want to ensure your day is Fun and Relaxed. Having mobile Beauty services come to you, along with all your friends/family at your side is just another enjoyable part of it all.

Candice from Michigan touched base and wrote us;

“I came across your site and I think your articles for brides are fantastic! I got married last year, and let’s just say the timeline was chaotic. I was over an hour late! Truth – because I didn’t plan out my morning the best. I tried to do salon services for Hair AND at home services for the Girls Makeup, and truly thought I didn’t need as much time as everyone told me. I was wrong.

I was reading your timeline posts and have a friend getting married in a few months (June). Would you be able to do a post in regards to Make-up and Hair timing? She’s under the impression that we can get everyone done (8 people)  in about 2 hours. I’ve told her that clearly is not the case, as was seen with my wedding debacle…Any help is appreciated so I can pass the info on.

Thanks so much and keep up the great work!”

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I think this is an excellent question, that many brides can get confused about….So let us start!

Remember, the very first portion of the day, starts with your Hair and Make-up and getting ready.

Booking MOBILE Services, is considered a Convenience and Luxury service, with your hired providers packing up and carting often suitcases worth of equipment, directly to you, in the comfort of your home, hotel, venue, at anytime of day. There is no traveling around to and from places. With that, services are in very high demand, with most mobile beauty service providers  generally booking about 1 year in advance.

Your Photos for the entire day start on the basics of your morning, with Hair and Makeup.

Remember that you are the CENTER of every image being taken throughout the entire day!

A fancy dress and expensive photographer will only take you so far, if you look liked you skimped on your beauty work, with faded makeup, frizzy hair and if you aren’t camera ready.

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We often get asked “How long does it all take?”

Well, that depends on a number of areas of the services being done. Each bridal party will differ as per the number of people for services and the elaborateness of each service being done that day.

A good game plan for the morning helps keep everything flowing smoothly and relaxed, no rushing around or running late at the end.

First and foremost, the most important part is your LEAVING BY TIME

Regardless of services done, how many People etc. EVERYTHING for your entire morning is based and scheduled around this time! Customized per each bridal party and their direct needs to ensure everyone is ready to go by this time.

Generally speaking you want to allow for approx. 20-45 minutes, per person, per service. The Bride about 45 minutes to 1 hour as you are the most important and often there may be a few extra details for you being done. Be sure to check with your beauty providers though, as some may take longer, where as more seasoned professionals, may take a bit less time!

Now a days, majority of Bridal clients book both mobile Hair and Make-up services. Either as a team, or  via separate provider, having their main Stylist come out to them, and so forth. This not only is far more efficient but also a lot more organized for the day of….especially with groups of 4 or more anyways.

This leaves the Bride and entire bridal party free to relax, receive services as the morning passes, while one is in hair, another is in Make-up and still allows enough time for others and yourself to eat, get dressed, take pictures and so forth… there’s no traveling around to and from places. Everyone is free to sit and relax throughout the morning or afternoon.

Secondly, once you have your “leave by time” you want to backtrack about 30 minutes to 1 hour from this. THIS Now becomes the time you want everyone 100% completed by! This last hour is now reserved for a few things…

For those that plan to have a photographer present, they will often arrive about 30 minutes to 1 hour beforehand, This is where they will take images of your final Make-up/Hair moments for everyone, and your Veil pinning. They will also start with your detail shots of your jewelry, rings, shoes, etc. before you put everything on.

This last hour before you leave, is now reserved for You and your bridal parties dressing time. Time for pictures and gathering last minute stuff together before your limo arrives or you need to leave. This extra timeline is key, as to not cause that last bit of time turning into a chaotic mess of everyone running about, scrambling for last minute things, rushed dressing and more.

This time table is universal to most weddings, again all set around each client’s leave by time.

Once your trial is completed, your artists will then have a better idea on how much time is then needed to complete your look as well as your bridal party. They will then fine tune it from there and set you up with your Start and End times.

One last thought….if you’ve hired yourself a seasoned professional makeup artist and hair stylist (or a team of them) trust they know how long your services will take.  This is what they do! Don’t assume you know better and try and outsmart them by adjusting the timelines – 9 times out of 10 is always ends in chaos!  Trust they have your best interest at heart.

Yes, some mornings might be early start times as well, you are not alone in this, and many brides end up accommodating this due to their timelines, that’s just a fact. It’s one day, and sometimes in order to accommodate services and/or large group it might be necessary.  Don’t let this be a cause for concern, make the best of it and Pre-plan out the night before, if you know you will require an earlier morning start time.

Remember Your wedding day is a once of a lifetime experience, don’t cause it to be rushed or  filled with un-necessary chaos and stress by un-thought out planning.

This is your day, sit back and enjoy it.

Happy Planning!

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Got something on your mind you’d like to see addressed?

Let us know, we’d be happy to do a post for you covering your questions.

Tattoo Covering for your Wedding Day

13 Jun

The wedding date is set, are you planning to rock out that tattoo you have or cover it up?

Though it’s not a request we see a lot of anymore, covering them can still be done.

However, now a days,  we see more brides that are wearing them proudly and even going as far as getting new services such as “tattoo bling” and “color brightening services” done via make-up techniques (Yes, all these services are available from us!)…I mean what was the point of getting something permanent if you are going to cover it up? Wear it proud and spruce up that dull looking tattoo. Why not re-vitalize it for the Big day?

Never the less, majority of our tattooed brides that we have had through over the years, do like to make one main a point, that majority of the times their friends/family know about the tattoo(s) anyways and it’s a part of who they are!

So today I wanted to discuss the reality of covering your tattoo up for your Big Day.

First thing to know is that Covering tattoos can be very time consuming! It is not just a quick 10 minute, slap-some-foundation-over-it type of thing.  It is also a fairly costly service. It takes a lot of products(s) in order to cover them and sometimes hours worth of time and a ton of patience.

You will also want to allot even more time for “getting ready services” on the day of to accommodate, pushing back your service times a fair bit more.

One of my Brides – Tattoo cover – As done by me & seen on her Wedding day
(Tattoo was in state of removal process)

Color enhancement on tattoo to brighten.

Next is having realistic expectations and understanding that although we can cover them, it is only make-up after all. We can do our best to camouflage the tattoo, but it will never look like you didn’t get tattooed, since there is direct and permanent damage to the skin itself.

It will, in most cases, be virtually undetectable in photos and to those who may not know of it/looking for it. But, depending on the tattoo, in some cases, can and will still be somewhat noticeable if up close.

Often it can take several layers to cover a tattoo. So this needs to be considered, especially in the case of those tattoo’s that may be in contact with attire and in risk of direct rubbing throughout your day. Though it is finished off with a sealer, there are still many factors that can hinder a cover and/or cause it to breakdown, regardless of Items used.

Numerous factoring agents can affect the application and it’s wear-ability including such things as; Selective color schemes of tattooed area, High movement areas and clothing interruptions, food and/or alcoholic beverages consumed, Heat and humidity, sweating, and general skin acceptance of products used.

As you see listed, alcohol consumption is listed, yes, drinking and Tattoo covers aren’t the best mix!

Allow me to explain this a bit better…

The consumption of alcohol in the days even preceding the event can and will often still have a negative effect on the lasting ability of the cover up being done for you that day.  Your body releases alcohol through the skin which can react with the products being used and cause the makeup to disappear or break down much sooner.

Alcohol should be avoided if at all possible or at least limited as it will also cause issues with your beauty makeup done as well!

Another thing to understand is that sometimes certain prescription drugs  in someone’s system may also effect the covering that is about to be done.

Your professional artist will be able to determine your best overall options if this is a service you may be considering.

After weighing your options, a secondary alternative is speaking with your photographer directly regarding your concerns. This is something we’ve seen of many clients, whose tattoos may not be practical to cover.

In many cases, or for smaller tattoos, they can easily and quickly remove your tattoos in a post-editing program from your final chosen images you select out. Again, your photographer will likely charge you an extra fee for this services and images might take a bit longer for return, but this is a happy medium and alternative for many clients. Thus giving the illusion of “no tattoo” in all your final images where it may appear.

So talk to your professional artist and photographer about your concerns, it’s often they can happily find you a solution to all your tattoo needs and any concerns!

For more information on Bridal services I offer;

Visit me at: www.brides-by-felicia.com

Why you should book your Wedding Vendors early…

8 Feb

Did you know that the highest number of engagements occur during the months of November through February?  With the prime question-popping holidays of Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine’s Day all one right after the other, it’s no wonder that we receive our highest number of bookings during that time. Hence why you will find, that by the time January rolls around for the start of the next bridal season, majority of your vendors will already be booked and closed by then, especially for Spring/Summer months!

Don’t want to compete with the huge rush of brides wanting to book all their vendors for their 2012 wedding?  Book BEFORE the engagement season takes over…

Typically, the first things to happen on the wedding day are Hair and Makeup services.  Whether this is first thing in the morning or first thing after lunch is up to you, but generally we get there before your photographer is due to arrive and long before all your other vendors.

This is why Beauty services are generally one of the first and fastest services to book up!! Especially those seeking the luxury and convenience of MOBILE Bridal services were your artists come to you in your home or at hotel location. As covered in our booking and timeline posts. These services generally book a minimum of 6 months to 1 year in advance. Spring/Summer months and all long weekend dates (Fridays included) generally averaging closer to the 1 year mark!

Here are some tips and things to consider about booking your vendors and why earlier is better.

Don’t believe what you see on TV.

With all these Bridal shows now, they’ll have you believing that you can plan a lavish event in mere weeks or a few short months. In most cases this is very untrue. What they don’t show you is the dozens of vendors hired in, to make everything a reality, dozens of teams hired on for just basics like set up and take down, let alone the actual details.

In the real world, it doesn’t quite work that way.  Wedding planning takes time, unless of course you don’t have a job and have unlimited time to juggle all your vendor appointments, fittings, taste tests, trials, and more…This is also why the average stat for engagement/planning stage is 14 months.

Your Stress is your own!

Yes, I know that sounds harsh, but let’s face it, if you hadn’t of procrastinated and waited until the mere month before the wedding, you wouldn’t be rushing around all drama like and taking it out on everyone. It’s because of you and it’s not fair for you to take that out on others.

The brides we see the most stressed out, are always the ones that left everything up until the mere few months before the date, now they scramble around work schedules, kids, school, etc. to get it together.

Somehow they thought they’d have plenty of time to book all their vendors, have all their appointments, make the decisions, then reconfirm all those details the week before? Really?

I can’t tell you how many brides we turn away every  year, who contact us in say July, for an August wedding. The busiest month(s) of the entire year and you left it until 3 weeks before the wedding? Sadly, by that point, they might as well go to the makeup counter or find someone on Craigslist, as all the professionals are likely booked MONTHS Prior, if not longer.

What happens then? STRESS – They begin to freak out, calling everyone they can find and mass messaging vendors  to find someone who isn’t already booked. Usually resulting in a family member or friend, with no idea about photography ready makeup, decor ideals, etc…. we then see a flood of “Help me” posts running rampant on the bridal forums.

In the rare instances we do still have artists open, or a vendor might be available still, the brides are already so stressed it can make for a very tense situation and thus many bridal vendors just based on that alone, will turn away a client!

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In the case of last minute clients, that is a perfect example, on what’s likely to cost you more. Many vendors will now charge you more, there will be late booking fees and so on, in many cases FULL Payment is now due upfront! You now have created a stressful working environment for them, leaving them rushing around to accommodate you last minute for a trial or meet up, processing paperwork, rush bouquets, that list goes on.

You want your vendors to be able to provide you with the very best, not slap something together for you in 2 days. It’s not fair to you, or them. Sadly, you then see the brides that have the nerve to complain when a Vendor can’t meet the criteria’s in such a short time, can’t get the supplies requested, or doesn’t have an open booking at their convenience, due to having other client’s booked in MONTHS beforehand…I mean seriously think about that, the entire situation at hand rests solely with the bride at that point and the procrastination of a last minute booking.

So just remember, it does not matter what vendor it is you are seeking, booking them in advance is going to save you a lot of headaches in the end, give you ample time to plan, the ability to change things as needed and just overall make the experience a lot more enjoyable. It’s never fun feeling rushed, especially for a day where there is a lot of time and money being spent. This is your day, take the time you need to make it prefect for you. An experienced professional will have a game plan for any situation, and getting your hands on that knowledge early on will save you stress, time, and money in the end.

Bridal Trials – Just when is the right time to book them?

9 Nov

The million dollar question; When should I book my Bridal trial for Hair and Makeup?

Today I want to spend a few minutes to convey how Trial sessions work, and what you need to know BEFORE you go spending your money on random trial sessions!

Many of the larger bridal hubs provide so much false information to brides on this sole area, that I think it’s high time we broke it all down.

Many brides get engaged and switch into hyper-excited mode, and rightfully so. HOWEVER, This is also 9 times out of 10 their own demise as well when it comes to their details planning…

Yes, many brides are eager to see themselves all done up. BUT, Not only are most not ready or prepared yet, but many also lack any of the ideals needed for their professionals hired, to do their job, and properly.

Here’s a few quick key questions to ask yourself first; Do you have all your wedding attire? Veil? Accessories? Color scheme chosen? Date/Times for the wedding? Have you confirmed number of people for services? Do you have any reference images together yet of what you want to go with for your look?

If you’ve answered no to 2 or more of even these basic questions, then you are not ready to begin your trial sessions yet….Allow me to better explain:

In the case of Bridal trials, Make-up and Hair trials are typically done approx. 8-10 weeks prior to the wedding date once everything is into its final stages and you have all your beauty “details” in place.

Though they can be done sooner, it is typically recommended against by most PROFESSIONAL beauty providers, as if done to early, it can compromise many different areas of the services.

All of these items and details are taken into consideration and worked with when constructing your bridal look. The overall style of your personal needs, but also the wedding itself. It’s for this reason that many beauty providers offer Full service packages, to better accommodate brides without compromising their service integrity as well.

Part one: Time Frame

When is your wedding? If your wedding isn’t until next August, a trial now and in the fall will do no good…6 months early? A year early? You’re wasting your time and money!

Why?

Basics will tell you that winter months will wear completely different than a spring/summer month will… How many of us have dry skin in the winter, oilier in the summer? Skin reacts differently, as will the temperatures affect on the Makeup/Hair. Even basics like rain verses sun. You will wear completely differently in 5 degree weather than in the dead heat of August sweating in 35 degree weather on a golf course. Thus in many cases completely different products will also be used, both for Hair and your Makeup.

This is often many brides first step to setting themselves up for False ideals and disappointments as to what you’ll look like, how it will wear and more…

Part 2: Growing your hair out for the wedding?

Most people’s hair can grow upwards of a 1/2 inch per month, some even more than that! So why are you going to do a trial 6-8 months early, then your hair won’t even be close to the length it is now?

Why this may be a problem…

As your hair grows out, this can hinder your hairstyle, and in some peoples cases, make the hairstyles completely obsolete come time of the wedding. Not only will the additional hair length add volume and bulk to the style, but can in fact change the overall appearance of it too.

For those planning down styles or Half up, curls will now wear and fall differently due to the added weight of the extra length. This can also cause hair to not only lose shape but fall out faster to.

For those that plan to overhaul their color; The mere color of your hair will also affect how it will “look” and more importantly, photograph! Ever notice how 90% of the bridal images you find are pictured with BLOND Models? It’s so you can see details, dark hair looks and photographs differently and thus absorbs lighting, fading out any detail work.

Part 3: The Accessories

Your veil, your earrings, the necklace, to the very dress you’re wearing that day… Even your color schemes all play a part in the final step of your wedding look.

Believe it or not, but even the shape of your earrings can change an entire “look” just by the way they shape your face, same goes for a chosen hairstyle.

In the case of brides choosing to wear a veil or statement piece in the hair, often Hairstyles will be styled to accommodate them. Some veils even leaving behind a “kink” in the hair and thus needing to be accommodated for during your styling.

Heavy beading on your dress? The style you chose for hair may actually be compromised now, causing the hair to catch and snag throughout the day on all that beading, willingly creating a frizzy mess and matted hair ends. No amount of photoshop is going to fix that…

When doing your trial, you want to make sure to see everything as a whole look, this is your best way to tell how you like or don’t like something. As a Bride you need to be able to see it as a full package, just as you would on the wedding day and for your photos. The earrings, the veil, the full makeup and Hair.

These are just a few quick examples of how much detail is taken into account for a Brides look and how jumping the gun to soon can hinder your wedding day look. Any professional level artist will tell you that. If as the bride you don’t have anything in place yet that your vendors need, how do you expect them to not only create your look but perform at the highest levels that you are paying them for, when you have them working blind?

Though it’s understandable to be excited, do yourself the favor and spend that extra time to really focus in and gather what you need first, before embarking on random trial sessions for a wedding that is still 9 months or so away and services that you aren’t prepared for just yet.

Booking and securing your choice artist is key, as many book a minimum of 1 year in advance, but holding out your included trial session until you’re ready is also key to the final outcome.

In the end, you’ll find better quality of service from your vendors, but also your wedding pictures and how you look in them. They will always reflect that extra time spent to do it right. When after all, your images are your lasting memory of an amazing day, why leave how you look in them on a bunch of  “what ifs” and “I don’t know yet”…?

Understanding your Contracts (Part 3) – The “Abuse” Clause

9 Nov

Due to the often unrealistic glamorization of many new “wedding shows” on television, there has seemingly been an increase in many brides “un-realistic” demands…Though it’s not to say for any bride that “they can’t have what they want” it comes down to the old renditions of how they treat others to achieve this…

With that, I present  a look into vendor’s “Abuse” clauses that are now being seen amidst the contract fine-print.

Generally speaking, We find brides branching off into two categories:

First, the brides that watch these shows during the course of their planning and are afraid of becoming a “bridezilla.”  Therefore out of this fear, choose not to speak up about their likes and dislikes, which can often lead to others walking all over them, un-necessary stresses,  inner party fighting and so on.

Secondly, a small few…and I do mean a VERY small few, can sometimes take the approach “Well, they can do that, why can’t I? It’s MY DAY!”  Thus resorting to ‘anger’ tactics to convey ideas, belittle others around them and so on in order to get what they want.

Now with that said,  Television is capitalizing on the stress levels of Brides during their planning, so many vendors now include an abuse clause that covers both sides of the equation for those involved in the contract.

Here’s a small snip of what an abuse clause might read like:

“We treat all client’s with the utmost respect, and ask that our clients and their wedding party, family and guests do the same. Sadly, sometimes there is someone who goes out of their way to be verbally or physically abusive to wedding professionals. At no time and under no circumstances whatsoever shall we tolerate abusive, violent, destructive, menacing, or harassing behavior from the client or any party acting on behalf of the client. If such behavior does occur, we will quietly and respectfully inform the client and/or members to handle the situation. However, if the abusive behavior does not stop, we will consider it a breach of contract, and remove ourselves from the premises immediately without providing any further services and all remaining fees will be due immediately and on the spot, regardless of further services not commenced and without any refund of monies paid.”

In the event that an abusive situation arises, be that from the direct contract holder, a bridesmaid, mother, drunken guests and so on; The vendor does reserve the right to “not put up with it” and hereby “quit” and walk out, should it not be dealt with in an acceptable manor for all involved.

This clause also doubles over from secondary term clauses that cite potential firing of a bride for anything from outrageous demands and changes, to changes to the terms booked for, that my compromise other bookings for that vendor and more…

In the case of a “deposit” paid forth these are a non-refundable retainer (unless otherwise stated) this payment made is to hold your date and secure your booking. Many vendors will then be deducting this amount paid out from your total and final pricing.

If this contract is breached, before the actual wedding date, your retainer fee is NOT likely to be returned!!

Namely on the principle that the vendor has likely already turned away other client’s seeking services, but also the time now spent out during emailing, phone calls and/or meet-ups with clients… Thus “Non Refundable.”

In the case of the wedding date itself, If a vendor has provided services up until this point or has traveled out to you, they may also reserve the rights to quit should an abusive or un-reasonable situation a rise. In which case all remaining fees are immediately due, regardless of the remaining service(s) that might need to be commenced!

So please be sure to read these areas carefully, as there is nothing funny about someone’s “drama,” either costing you money or ruining your big day!

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